The Starling

 Hey Everyone.

 I hope you have a wonderful Weekend! 

I have decided to write about a movie called The Starling starring Melissa Mccarthy, Kevin Kline, Kimberly Quinn, Laura Harrier and a whole wonderful cast of people.

The movie starts off with a lovely couple named Jack and Lilly Maynard who are painting an outdoor mural on their daughter's Infant Katie's bedroom wall while she is contentedly watching them.

A couple months later Jack and Lilly are grieving their daughter Katie she passed away from SIDS, Jack is residing in a mental hospital, while Lilly is working as a supermarket assistant manager grieving by herself.

 After Lillys visit at the facility which doesn't go very well unfortunately along with the group session the counselor follows her out to her car, she feels she is putting Jack's grief above her own and she isn't taking care of her own grief, she suggests to Lilly that she sees someone for her own mental health.

 She is trying to stay strong for Jack's return in addition to work, Lilly works on their family property, she tackles the unkempt yard and garden under the sprawling tree by the house, as she works a starling nesting in the tree attacks her.

Meanwhile back at the facility Jack secretly cheeks his medication and is not cooperative in his personal sessions, he complains about Lilly's regular visits, and is not appreciative of the snacks she always brings, or the two hour drive she takes weekly to see him.

She has been avoiding Katie's room since her death, she finally enters the room, she methodically empties the room of furniture and baby clothes, then does the same in the living room, A young expectant couple comes by and is eyeing the crib.

Lilly trades everything for the recliner, after organizing her home, she goes to see Doctor Larry Fine, the recommend quirky Psychiatrist-turned- Veterinarian, in the beginning he is hesitant to help.

 He decides to listen to Lilly's story while he is giving a dog a special kind of surgery.

Katie's death was a year ago and Jack is having a hard time handling it, she mentions the furniture purging to Larry, he questions if She is managing it well, and he tells her again that Lilly would be better off seeking another therapist, he is available if she needs to see a vet.

 In the facility they are using Potter's wheels, Jack is triggered by coming upon remnants from a children's classroom while seeking a tool in the corner, he leaves abruptly.

Another Starling attacks happens Lilly has Dr. Larry treat her wounds, they form a unique unlikely bond as they help each other acknowledge and confront their problems.

 He helps her with the Bird while embedding ways to help her grieve her daughter Katie's passing in their conversations of passing, Jack periodically calls without speaking.

Lilly monogues at her uncommunicative husband about what she's been doing, until she mentions Katie in passing so he hangs up upset, the obsessed Lilly is talked into poisoning a bird feeder to exterminate the starling, she is reminded other birds might pass away.

She hurries home to find a bird that has passed away, she remorsefully buries it taking down the feeder, Jack continues to be uncooperative in private sessions admitting he feels lost unable to snap out of it.

 Lilly has another run in with the bird and she puts on a football helmet to protect her head, she talks to it and then it flies off, finding Katie's sock an upset Lilly walks to Larry's place in the rain, it is filled with an array of creatures.

There she reveals she thwarted Jack's plan of hurting himself badly by carbon monoxide in the garage, he was committed, then Larry tells her that she is blaming herself and that she needs to talk to jack, Lilly becomes attached to the bird, she almost nearly hurts it with a stone, she asks Larry to help her revive it, nursing it back to health, when the bird recovers she lets it go, she and the bird start to tolerate each other instead of abuse each other.

You will have to see the rest of the movie to find out what happens next, I decided to write about this movie because I have dealt with a few moments of grief in my life, and they were all very hard moments grieving is a very hard thing to do especially when its someone you love and care about very much, I have lost a few family members and most recently a cousin we shared the same birthday, he was a wonderful cousin and always put a smile on my face and he could always make me smile and laugh! 

One of the hard things about grieving is when someone asks how are you doing? 

And you say you are fine or that you are doing fine, when really you are not fine, and really upset and devastated at the whole situation, you say you are fine because you really do not want to get into the whole scenario and re hash everything that has happened because it's really sad or really whatever happened in your situation that has caused you to grieve. 

And I had good friends and family check in with me when I lost a few of my family members, they all told me they got me and to call them or reach out whenever I needed them and I am really thankful for that! 

It is ok to tell someone that you are not ok, and to talk to them about what has been going on with you or while you are feeling the way you do because if they really Care about you they will sit with you, and help you in whatever you need help in and just listen to whatever is on your heart to say because they know you are going through it right now and need someone to be with you and stand by you in your time of need! 

Personally when I lost my cousin, I had good friends that talked with me and supported me and cared for me in my time of need because they knew I was hurting and needed someone to talk to at that point of time! 

Another passing that I had some grieving moments with was Micheal Jackson… I remember where I was too , I was at the karate studio and it played over the radio…I couldn’t believe it.. I love his music.. he really blessed the world and made an impact on the world! He started singing when he was 5 Years old! Fun fact about me , I love the number 5!!!

And he had an amazing and successful career in his fifty years of life! I also loved Whitney Houston, she was absolutely beautiful and had  such an elegant presence about her , and she touched many peoples hearts and lives in her time of life! 

I was sitting at the kitchen table when I heard of her passing…. I listened to her Music all night that night …. And I loved her in Cinderella to me she’s always be my fairy godmother! I also really loved Aretha Franklin, when I heard about her I was in the hallway Sitting on the stairs …. She also leaved an incredible impact and legacy on the world and made a lot of amazing music! 

I also really liked Betty white, and Cameron Boyce! Very kind and caring , incredible people! 

Even though they are gone physically, they are still here in spirit and in each person heart who they have touched when they were here physically! I also was saddened when Kobe Bryant passed away and Twitch because they were such kind and caring, loving generous, joyous men! I am happy I got to know them and learn about them before they left the world.. 

 It is ok to let your guard down with people you trust with your heart and it is ok to tell them that you are not doing fine at the moment, everyone has a tough day once in awhile.

Once they find someone to talk to or receive a kind word or encouragement from someone they begin to feel better, I encourage you to when life gives you lemons make lemonade and as Dory says Just Keep Swimming, or like the song from Cars Life is a highway I'm going to ride it all night Long!

My favorite scene from the movie is when Lilly and the starling first meet each other, and getting on each others nerves and then eventually they become friends!

 In the beginning they don't really know each other and they are going at each other's throats as they begin to know each other, they slowly stop annoying each other and start to become comfortable with each other and enjoy each other's company! 

Also I am a fan of Melissa Mccarthy, she is absolutely amazing and awesome!

 I enjoy a lot of her movies, she lights up every room she is she has an incredible kind and caring heart and a beautiful smile that can make anyone smile and whoever she is with at the present time! She is really sweet and kind, and just a fun person to be around! 

She can make you laugh and smile non-stop she is an absolute joy to be around! Every time I see one of her movies, It makes me feel Like I am in the movie with her and like the character that she is playing is an actual person in real life! I recommend you all to see this Movie, I think you will really enjoy It! It is ok not to be ok sometimes, you do not have to be in superhero mode all the time, try to take a minute sometimes and relax everything will be ok! 

And I put an encouraging and inspirational talk by Chrystal Evans Hurst she is the daughter of Dr. Tony Evans and Lois Evans, she’s an absolutely incredible and amazing woman and person and is amazing at what she does!

 I watched A DFJ conference this past weekend, it was absolutely amazing!  I learned from Chrystal to let yourself be loved and to hug someone a little bit longer… because you want them to feel the love from you come into them! Hug’s releases endorphins… into the other person from you! My big sis gives me wonderful hugs … my church family and my family give me wonderful hugs and make me feel loved .

I think this movie will help you with your grieving process and help you to heal as you are on your journey  to feeling better… I’ve added a couple of clips of people that are grieving … and maybe this will help you while you are missing your loved one. Hold on to your loved ones and close family and friends a little longer…. Because time is short… you don’t want to leave anything unsaid or wish you could have done something when they were living … give them their flowers now! 

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